How Should I Respond When My Daughter Sins? The Six C’s That Will Change Your Perspective ~ Part 2

How Should I Respond When My Daughter Sins

How Should I Respond When My Daughter Sins? The Six C’s That Will Change Your Perspective ~ Part 2

(Excerpt from Raising God’s Girl Chapter 5 That’s My Girl? Walking Through Seasons of Disappointment and Pain)

It’s no wonder I am exhausted; I am surrounded by sinners all day long! And the worst part is that when I brush my teeth every morning, I look up and see the chief of sinners staring back at me from the mirror (1 Tim. 1:15). Life can be challenging, and parenting only increases the pressure and the stakes. In this series, we’ll look at some biblical qualities that can help us succeed in this adventure of Raising God’s Girl.

{To receive encouragement for the first “C” ~ COMPASSION, please see our previous blog post. Now we are going to discuss the next “C” ~  CONVICTION.}

CONVICTION
Compassion for our daughters should not dampen our desire to correct them; instead compassion should strengthen our conviction to train them. “Train up a child in the way he should go, even when he is old he will not depart from it” (Prov. 22:6). Because we know how hard it is to battle sin and temptation, and because we know how hard it can be to interact with others, we are all the more motivated to instruct our daughters while they are still young and teach them biblical principles for fighting sin, growing in the Lord, and relating well with others.

What type of training should we give? Well, the entire Bible is our curriculum for life. It is the book to teach us how to avoid difficulties and the book to turn to when difficulties arise. Second Timothy 3:16-17: “All Scripture is inspired by God and profitable for teaching, for reproof, for correction, for training in righteousness; so that the man of God may be adequate, equipped for every good work.” Yes, we want our daughters trained in righteousness and equipped for every good work!

We are to use Scripture to help our daughters practice and learn from situations so they can be discerning and maturing in the Lord. “But solid food is for the mature, who because of practice have their senses trained to discern good and evil” (Heb. 5:14). Yes, we want our daughters to be able to discern between good and evil!

We are to use our authority in our daughters’ lives to gently discipline them. “All discipline for the moment seems not to be joyful, but sorrowful; yet to those who have been trained by it, afterwards it yields the peaceful fruit of righteousness” (Heb. 12:11). Yes, we want a bountiful harvest of the peaceful fruit of righteousness in our daughters’ lives!

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Hailey: I saw Mrs. Young at the store today. She said Aubrey had her wisdom teeth pulled and would love some company.

Mom: What did you say to her?

Hailey: I just said, “Oh, I’m sorry to hear that.” Then I rushed over to the next aisle. There’s no way I’m going by to visit “little miss princess” after the way she destroyed my red dress. She borrowed it for a party and then wore it to the beach! What was she thinking? She didn’t even apologize when I saw it tossed in the corner of her room.

Mom: Yeah, well, it’s her loss.
Message: If someone’s mean to me, then our friendship is over.
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Hailey: I saw Mrs. Young at the store today. She said Aubrey
had her wisdom teeth pulled and would love some company.

Mom: What did you say to her?

Hailey: I just said, “Oh, I’m sorry to hear that.” Then I rushed over to the next aisle. There’s no way I’m going by to visit “little miss princess” after the way she destroyed my red dress. She borrowed it for a party and then wore it to the beach! What was she thinking? She didn’t even apologize when I saw it tossed in the corner of her room.”

Mom: I can understand how frustrating that must be.
But I wonder if there’s some way you could show her kindness?
I think of that passage in Luke 6 that tells us how to treat our enemies.
I’m always challenged by this, especially verse 35: “But love
your enemies, and do good, and lend, expecting nothing in return;
and your reward will be great, and you will be sons of the Most High;
for He Himself is kind to ungrateful and evil men.”

Message: I need to discover what Scripture says about my situation.
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